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Factors that shape and influence self-esteem

Self-esteem begins to form in early childhood. Factors that can influence self-esteem include:

  • Your own thoughts and perceptions
  • How other people react to you
  • Experiences at home, school, work and in the community
  • Illness, disability or injury
  • Culture or religion
  • Role and status in society
  • Media messages

Relationships with those close to you — parents, siblings, peers, teachers and other important contacts — are important to your self-esteem. Many beliefs you hold about yourself today reflect messages you've received from these people over time. If your relationships are strong and you receive generally positive feedback, you're more likely to see yourself as worthwhile and have healthier self-esteem. If you receive mostly negative feedback and are often criticized, teased or devalued by others, you're more likely to struggle with poor self-esteem.

Still, your own thoughts have perhaps the biggest impact on self-esteem — and these thoughts are within your control. If you tend to focus on your weaknesses or flaws, you can learn to develop a more balanced, accurate view of yourself.

Ranges of self-esteem

Self-esteem tends to fluctuate over time, depending on your circumstances. It's normal to go through times when you feel down — or good — about yourself. Generally, however, self-esteem stays in a range that reflects how you feel about yourself overall. Consider how to recognize the extremes of your self-esteem:

  • Low self-esteem. When you have low or negative self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You focus on your perceived weaknesses and faults and give scant credit to your skills and assets. You believe that others are more capable or successful. You might have difficulty accepting positive feedback. You might fear failure, which can hold you back from succeeding at work or school.
  • Healthy self-esteem. When you have healthy self-esteem it means you have a balanced, accurate view of yourself. For instance, you have a good opinion of your abilities but recognize your flaws.

When self-esteem is healthy and grounded in reality, it's hard to have too much of it. Boasting and feeling superior to others around you isn't a sign of too much self-esteem. It's more likely evidence of insecurity and low self-esteem.

Benefits of healthy self-esteem

When you value yourself and have good self-esteem, you feel secure and worthwhile. You have generally positive relationships with others and feel confident about your abilities. You're also open to learning and feedback, which can help you acquire and master new skills.

With healthy self-esteem you're:

  • Assertive in expressing your needs and opinions
  • Confident in your ability to make decisions
  • Able to form secure and honest relationships — and less likely to stay in unhealthy ones
  • Realistic in your expectations and less likely to be overcritical of yourself and others
  • More resilient and better able to weather stress and setbacks
  • Less likely to experience feelings such as worthlessness, guilt and shame
  • Less likely to develop eating disorders

Self-esteem affects virtually every facet of your life. Maintaining a healthy, realistic view of yourself isn't about blowing your own horn. It's about learning to like and respect yourself — faults and all.

Self-esteem check: Too low or just right?

Self-esteem is shaped by your thoughts, relationships and experiences. Understand the ranges of self-esteem and the benefits of promoting healthy self-esteem — including mental well-being, assertiveness, resilience and more.

Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the respect of others. When you have low self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You might constantly worry that you aren't good enough.
Here's how to tell if your self-esteem needs a boost and why it's important to develop a healthy sense of your own worth.​


If Charged with Simple battery, assault, domestic violence, cruelty to children, disorderly conduct, terroristic threat, criminal trespassing, obstruction of justice and others, the state of Georgia and most states may require you to receive a standardized anger/violence evaluation from a certified counselor. This evaluation may recommend Anger/Stress Management classes.
After your evaluation and classes we issue you a letter and certificate of completion to take to court, probation or your employer or referring party.
​Most attorneys recommend you take these classes before you appear in court.

​Managing Stress, Building Self-Esteem, and Staying Positive at Work

Program Overview

Georgia Anger Management offers Stress Management Onsite training program for better stress management, self-esteem, and techniques for staying positive at work. Information is presented in a professional and relaxed style.

Program Objectives

At this program's conclusion, participants should be able to:

  • Understand the study of stress and its impact.
  • List tactics for successful time management.
  • Explain how to prioritize and determine what is really important.
  • Demonstrate techniques for interacting with difficult people.
  • Employ physical and mental techniques for coping with stress.
  • Create reachable goals.
  • Begin implementing goals created during the session.

The following outline highlights some of the course's key learning points. As part of your training program, we will modify content as needed to meet your business objectives. Upon request, we will provide you with a copy of the participant materials prior to the session(s).

Course Outline

Stress Happens: Determining a Treatment Regime

Stress occurs for a host of different reasons. This program begins with an examination of the causes of stress, a brief history of stress study, and a self-diagnostic tool with which participants will pinpoint their biggest stressors: time management issues, communication with coworkers, etc.

I Did It to Myself: Stopping Self Sabotage

"I can't....This always happens to me...." Many self-sabotaging behaviors are the result of negative thoughts and poor choices. This lesson is designed to help participants develop new habits after becoming aware of the various ways that they might be sabotaging their success and adding to stress.

Candles Please!: Eliminating Stress from the Physical Environment

Okay, so there are no candles in most offices, but there are several techniques for removing stress from the physical environment: choosing and sitting in the right chair, walking instead of taking the stairs, removing clutter and other distractions, and more.

Mind over Matter: Six Mental Techniques for Handling Stress

Anticipating and avoiding potentially stressful situations, avoiding unnecessary stress, reducing the importance of an event, reducing uncertainty, tapping into imagery, positive thought, and meditation are all classic techniques for handling workplace stress. This segment introduces those methods of coping and encourages participants to try each.

Almost Massage Therapy: Stretch, Twist, Reach

Unit five covers physical exercises to reduce short-term stress. From deep breathing to cable stretches, participants will learn a variety of treatments for instant renewal

Nutrition Connection: Understanding Food and Stress

The old saying "you are what you eat" is true. Poor nutrition leads to stress. This component reviews basic nutrition and the importance of a healthy diet for maximum productivity

Checking Out: Prescription for Success

The Attitude Day Spa - Managing Stress, Building Self-Esteem, and Staying Positive at Work concludes with each participant selecting goals and methods they will use to combat stress and return to work renewed, refreshed, and ready to tackle new tasks.

After a day of attitude pampering, participants will understand why stress happens to them and how they can reduce it, renew themselves, and take on the challenges of work.

These workshops are at our convenient location or at your location.

Businesses and companies are more productive and profitable if their employees and workers are less stressful.

We are certified and seasoned facilitators in Anger and Stress Management. We specialize in violence in the work place and relationship building. Our sessions are focus driven and designed to enhance inter-personal relationships and promote overall health. The less stress and anger you have the happier you become.​
Are you tired of being angry all the time?

Do you want to know how to handle your emotions better?

If you answered yes to either of those questions then Anger Management is the session for you!

In this session you will learn how to:

  • Handle different styles of anger: Examine how people typically deal with conflicts 
  • Identify anger responses: Your triggers. 
  • Discover ways to handle anger responses: Working through your emotions. 
  • Social situations: Simple things we forget to say or do. 
  • Garner conflict resolution styles: Myriad responses that help resolve differences. 
  • Forgiveness: Why it is important.
  • How to sustain change: Holding on to what you have learned.​                                             Our New Classroom/Conference Room


Effective communication helps us better understand a person or situation, enables us to resolve differences, build trust and respect, and create environments where creative ideas, problem solving, affection, and caring can flourish. As simple as communication seems, many of us experience difficulties connecting successfully with others. Much of what we try to communicate—and others try to communicate to us—gets overlooked or misunderstood, which can cause conflict and frustration in both personal and professional relationships.

Fortunately, effective communication skills can be learned. Whether you’re trying to improve communication with your spouse, kids, boss, or coworkers, it’s important to listen well, recognize nonverbal communication signals, manage stress, and stay connected to your emotions.

How to reduce the most stress in the least amount of time.

The following twelve strategies are designed to help you eliminate the most stress in the least time.

  1. Stop passing judgment. When you honk at bad drivers, get annoyed at the people who talk in the movies, or feel frustrated when a coworker impolitely interrupts, YOU are the one who suffers - NOT the person who has committed the infraction. So whenever you hear yourself thinking like a judge and jury - banish these negative thoughts from the courtroom of your mind - and you'll banish an enormous amount of stress too.
  2. Allow extra time. Time pressure is a major source of stress. Next time you snap at the kids, feel stressed in a traffic jam or get chewed out by your boss, look below the surface. Time pressure is often the culprit. To counteract this stressor, build in extra time for kids who will dawdle, for traffic that will become congested and assignments that will take longer than you think. When you take this simple advice you'll be amazed how much stress you'll circumvent.
  3. Create a comfortable morning routine. When you start your day feeling rushed and frazzled, knowing you have more than you can possibly do in the time allotted, your stress levels will skyrocket. To avoid this unpleasant scene, make your lunch, choose your outfit and get organized the night before. Go to bed a little earlier and set your alarm a little earlier too. (30 minutes should do the trick.) Now wake up, stretch, enjoy your coffee and don't rush. But plan on getting to work at least 10 minutes early. Wait till you see how this simple strategy changes your whole day.
  4. Take a shower at the end of the day instead of the beginning. It feels great, it helps you relax (only cuts into TV time which is not relaxing), you won't have to rush and (we promise) you won't get dirty over night. When you flip flop this activity around it will free up an extra 20-30 minutes in the morning when you need it most.
  5. Practice genuine forgiveness. When you hold a grudge, you also hold a toxic dose of anger. You carry this anger everywhere you go, and it radiates out and affects loved ones and others for which the anger is not intended. It's a well known fact that anger can raise your blood pressure, clog your arteries and lead to heart disease. But when you really forgive people (beside cleansing your system of toxic anger) you'll be eliminating an enormous burden of stress, too. As author, Dr. Dean Ornish says: "Just about the most selfish thing you can do is to forgive other people."
  6. Get organized. Disorganization is stressful. Clean your desk, tidy your car, organize your closets. You won't believe how much less stressed you'll be.
  7. Only worry with a writing instrument. Take comfort in the fact that most worries never come to pass and things worth worrying about usually hit you by surprise. So force needless worries out of your mind, and only allow yourself to worry when you can make a list of what's troubling you or talk over your worries with a trusted friend.
  8. Living in the moment. When you first wake up in the morning, do you lie there and enjoy the warmth of your bed (living in the moment) or do you worry about the day ahead? When you take a shower, do you enjoy how good the hot water feels (living in the moment) or do you think about something your boss might have said to you the day before? When you stand in a long line at the bank do you make a point to talk to person next to you (living in the moment) or do you just stand there feeling frustrated? When you go places with your children are you really there with them - talking and interacting (living in the moment) - or are you somewhere else, reliving some unpleasant interaction you had with someone else that you can never change. When we detach ourselves from our lives in this way, not only are we missing out on moments that will never come again, the places we go to in our minds are often filled with pain and suffering. We criticize ourselves. (Why can't I afford a car like that?) We nit pick. (My spouse didn't put the milk away again!) We feel guilty. (I should have spent more time at the office this week!) We worry. (What if the economy never recovers?) We get angry. (My co-worker is so rude.) And we feel resentful. (That little weasel didn't deserve a promotion.) This insane voice is the source of more stress than you can calculate. But you can turn this voice off simply by tuning into the moment (In the ways we have described in the first paragraph). Another way to turn this voice off is by engaging in activities that produce flow. Flow comes about during activities that are so gratifying and satisfying that, when you're done, you say to yourself, where did the time go? Whether it's a job you love, a hobby you really enjoy, dancing, listening to great music, or reading a great book, during periods of flow the voice in your head goes away and you fully immerse yourself in what you are doing. In a sense, living in the moment occurs automatically during these times. So whether you consciously try to live in the moment, or find activities that produce flow, either way, you will quiet the mind and eliminate an extraordinary amount of stress.
  9. Call a friend. Your network of friends may be the most powerful stress management tool you have at your disposal. Cultivate friendships with people who can make you laugh and/or listen attentively and call them whenever you feel low.
  10. Learn to say no. Too many volunteer activities will make you crazy. Write down five different ways to say no and practice saying them until the words roll off your tongue. Start with: Let me check my calendar and I'll get back to you.
  11. ​​Skip the 11 O'clock news. Most news programs over-emphasize death and disaster to get you hooked. You don't need this in your head the last thing before you go to bed at night. Turn off the TV at ten and read something interesting or inspirational before you go to bed instead.
  12. Be grateful. Make a mental list of all the things you have to be grateful for and say them to yourself before you got to bed at night. You'll be amazed at how relaxing and reassuring this little exercise can be.
  13. HearthMath™ research gives practical stress and anger controls. Book: HearthMath™ Solutions. Experience Appreciation, Caring, Compassion and Love while concentrating on the heart and breathing through the heart.

Most people believe that stress is the result of events and circumstances they can't control, like a flat tire, a traffic jam or a missed deadline. But to a large extent it's your thinking about these that is the true source of your distress. You may not be able to control what happens to you, but you CAN control your reaction to it. Knowing this simple fact, and using some of the techniques described above will put you in the driver's seat of your life.